You all imagine what your birth experience and subsequent lives as parents will be like and often times this is a singular activity.....one "parent to be" is thinking one thing and their partner is thinking something totally different. New questions/situations will arise about both big and little things and when you are exhausted, emotional and overwhelmed is not when you want to discover what is really important to each of you. Why? because this can lead to unwanted stress and conflict in your relationships (and nobody wants that!). Sometimes it is surprising what can become a bone of contention between couples. I was at a party once and a couple preparing to have twins were casually talking about taking the kids out and about and the mom brought up how handy "kid leashes" would be. The dad was instantly and adamantly opposed to the idea and a heated argument arose about something that was pretty far off in the future and what the mom assumed was no big deal Obviously you cannot plan for every area where you might not agree and an issue like this can be revisited at a later time. But there are many things you can discuss ahead of time (what type of birth do you want? who will be at the birth? how will we prepare? etc) enhancing your relationship and learning a lot about your partner in the process! All of which will improve your birth experience and your foray into being new parents.
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